Cesya asked
1 month ago

with autism/ aspergers, what social norms/trends/things that have been deemed ‘normal’, have just never made sense to you? what are your thoughts in regards to/ about it?

Cesyais awaiting your help. Add your answer.

  1. Raita says:

    “Small talk. I don’t care about the weather or the sports ball thing or the hockey thing and I suspect you don’t either. Intellectually I get that basically you’re just affirming that you each are on friendly terms and it boils down to “I make friendly noises to you, you make them to me, and we both feel good.” Also when someone asks “How’s it going?” or similar. I know the proper response is “Pretty good, you?” but it makes no sense to me — asking a question that you aren’t really interested in the answer of, more of that friendly noises stuff. “

  2. Temp says:

    Going out/clubbing. The whole concept of it is just absolutely draining to me. I prefer to be home or at a small party with people I genuinely care about. Dancing around with a bunch of randos is super unappealing to me and exhausting when/if I do it for the sake of a friend.

  3. Lurlene says:

    Parties without a specific theme/purpose. What do you DO, if you aren’t gathered to celebrate a birthday or to enjoy your friend’s new xbox. what do you talk about or do. strangers mill around a couple rooms, trying to find common interests, making small talk. it’s the worst.

  4. Alyson says:

    People are not looking at each other during the whole conversation but keep looking at different things while talking. I was told that people do that so now I just mimic the other person to know how much I should look away.

  5. Small talk – who cares? monogamy – if you are a good match, why would it matter if the other person fucks some one else? If you are a really a good match, you are irresplacable. The freind zone – I think friends are great and don’t understand why it would be bad to have another. Abortion – clearly its the woman’s choice. How is that even debatable? It’s slavery to force a woman to carry to term a fetus she doesn’t want. Capitalism & millionaires – there is no good reason why there are millionaires. Millionaires make no sense. No one works so hard that they should be paid millions. Not a God damn soul. You know what should pay a lot more? Helping people. If you are a nurse, working in a homeless shelter, run hospice etc – that should be a balling gig.

  6. Eweline says:

    “I truly don’t understand the idea of tradition or religion. They just seem mega illogical to me. Like why the fuck would we do something for somebody who doesn’t even seem to care enough to prove they exist. It makes me super angry when people say stuff like “I don’t have to know, I beleive” . B U L L $ H I T….. One of the advantages and kind of also disadvantages of being autistic is that you learn your feelings are well just feelings. They are important for understanding your fellow man, but damn don’t take them over facts. Understand that feelings are also facts but that they need to be dealt with as much less than absolute knowledge. Religion is just people feeling like they maybe know something and then just jumping the bloody gun and claiming to know it. Autism made that super duper apparent to me . “

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