Non-binary folks who speak languages where the gender of words is fundamental to the language (i.e. Spanish), what pronouns do you use?

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Dorisa · Accepted Answer

"Spanish language has a set of words for male or female, but after that we need to make the difefence between inclusive (female and male) and neutral (no gender distinction). It goes a little like this: For example.  Latina: individual female Latinas: group of females Latino: individual male Latinos: either a group of males or a group both males and females. Now, usually "latinos" would be the accepted form of encasing everyone, a group of males and females, which is not neutral, but instead is inclusive. The new version, the neutral version, replaces the last vocal with an "x", so the neutral version would be "latinxs". In other cases we already have a neutral version with the letter "e". For example "estudiantes" is already neutral, and the versions that would be used fore male and female are either non-existent or not used. "

Gerrit · Answer

I use it pronouns both in english and in german.

birthe · Answer

I like to use the pronouns I was assigned at birth (she/her) because I present mostly femininely anyway, but if I'm feeling like it I just switch to he/him. I don't have any solid pronouns anyway, whatever rolls off the tongue first is what me and my friends use.

VI · Answer

"English speaker here, I just use "it" for myself, and in other languages everyone uses the "it" form of words. In Polish for instance, the "it" form is the same form you'd use for "that child was crying at the time". In Portugese, I say "obrigado" (not "obrigada" or "obrigadu") "

Jiina · Answer

In Polish, a nonpersonal neutral pronoun is commonly used. Even though unlike English, Polish actually has a singular personal neutral pronoun, but it's mostly used for kids.

Sissy · Answer

I'm spanish, and i use le, ellx (pronounced as an e), and ellex (also pronounced as an e).

Mili · Answer

"With adjectives to describe yourself, do you switch between masculine and feminine to assert your non-binary identity? For example, do you sometimes say "sono contenta/sono contento"? (Ho studiato un po' italiano al liceo). "

Brigitte Strauss · Answer

"While I am nowhere near knowing even basic ASL, I know a few words/phrases and I know some of them are gendered, like the words for "father" versus "mother", where the position of the hand is on the forehead or the chin. Do you know if there exists a gender neutral version of "parent" where the hand is in a different position but the shape and motion is the same? Or does that change the meaning of the word completely? "

SHERLY · Answer

I demand people to use female pronouns since my girlfriend and my friend group of upperclassmen are really the only people that know I'm non-binary.

Rochester · Answer

In English I usually use they them, but my mother tongue doesn't have that option, or rather it's the same as the female pronouns. So I just go with she/her there. However if I would be less feminine I would use neopronouns

Sehrazat · Answer

Fun fact: Bengali language has no gender

abida · Answer

Well in Urdu people probably just choose one gender, the one they dress up as.

Duke · Answer

for words that involve actions they mostly end in an a or o, example, baleada/baleado, they are the words for shooted

Kenyon · Answer

The regular pronouns depending on how masculine or feminine they look Just because you dislike something that isn't praising a trans person doesn't mean I'm transphobic and it doesn't mean you've solved the worlds issues

Annett Weiss · Answer

"In Dutch the gender of words isn't really important. We do have them but there are no rules for what gender a word is(that's why it's almost impossible to learn perfect Dutch). We use our own version of "them" which is "hen". However, "hen" is really close to the word "hem", which means "him", so that does become really confusing. "

JOEANN · Answer

I have a non-binary friend. We live in Greece, where there isn't even remotely a gender-neutral pronoun. They just avoid using pronouns altogether. And they slightly changed their name too because all names in greek are gendered (as I expect happens in most languages).

Davon · Answer

It's a difficult thing for sure. I just chose the one from my gender assigned at birth bc that's what I got used to when I was learning Spanish (and didn't know I was nb yet). Not everyone does that tho. For most It's kind of like choosing your gender on forms or in games that only have m and f. Just gotta pick one unfortunately

Adolpho · Answer

"German here. We don't have "gendered" words like other languages, but there still is the problem about the pronouns. My friend's sibling came out as non-binary just recently, and it's really complicated to address them correctly because we don't have something like they/them pronouns. Family has been going with repeating the name every single time a pronoun would be used, not sure if that's a practical solution forever, though ... "

Ruvejda · Answer

In Spanish i just use the they/them conjugation of verbs instead of she/he. If the person asked why im using they or them while speaking of one person i explain. I do the sane when speaking French or even in English.  ASL is alot of fun since pronouns are just pointing. So explanations needed

Kesia · Answer

Good luck being non binary if you speak Arabic.

Renee · Answer

Honestly it depends, I came out as non-binary to my internet folks almost two years ago and ever since I've been using male pronouns(I'm from Poland) whenever I'm talking to someone I'm super comfortable with, or over the internet. Irl, because I'm pretty feminine-looking and don't mind that too much or am planning to change that anytime soon, I go by female pronouns(at work etc). I prefer male pronouns since to me they somehow feel more neutral than female but at the same time being a non-binary person is a concept only younger people understand, plus it's just easier to go by whatever people choose, I've been called a sir and a ma'am multiple times interchangeably so I don't really care lol

Birgul · Answer

French here : we have a made-up pronoun for nb people (iel), but lots of us find it not really nice (i personally don't care), and it is just really a mix between il (he) and elle (she), and that is quite weird and gives the false idea that non-binary is a grey mix of boy and girl... So i just use my birth pronouns (elle) and i use they/them in english. Another nb friend of mine uses il or elle alternatively tho, so it depends on the individual. We would still really like our language to be more gender neutral tho

Ann Helene · Answer

Male in Slovene, they them in English

Sophia Meier · Answer

I usually just say a non speciefed word or I just use both the female/male name (italian)

Matthew · Answer

"Well even though Russia is homophobic I still consider myself genderqueer, Russian has words that end with <> (pronounced "ka") as female words (studentka, babushka, vodka), I use gendered pronouns to not offend anyone, but how vodka has a gender in Russian pisses me off, how the fuck did the inventor of Russian look at vodka and be like <> like what the hell, but yeah I will still say the female equivalent to words, there's a female word for many jobs and stuff, student has one for male and female for example, I do edit to say that Russian doesn't have a gender neutral equivalent for words, but sometimes yes, the male word for some words can be gender neutral "

Ekaterine · Answer

What do you call a non-binary aunt or uncle?

Maria Friedman · Answer

My friend's non-binary but was born a female. They usually just resign themselves to the female pronouns because no one in their family would actively try to use the Hindi general-neutral words (in situations where they could use gender-neutral words). We usually go out of our way to find out the gender-neutral words and use them. It was so simple really, just use the polite version of Hindi but nooo people don't want to do that

Nedi · Answer

"I have a non binary friend who goes with male pronoun in spanish and neutral pronoun in english because they don't like the spanish non binary term. In spanish, a highly gendered language, we reeplaced the gendered letter with an "X", that is pronounced "E" Non binary folks use "le", instead of "el" for male and "la" for female   Also I have a question. Singular they goes with "don't" as in plural they or as "doesn't" as he/she/it? "

Non-binary folks who speak languages where the gender of words is fundamental to the language (i.e. Spanish), what pronouns do you use?

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